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Haven Elene

Haven Elene Havili. First, the middle name Elene is after my grandmother. She had a special relationship with Stanley and my kiddos, and we just thought it was perfect. We sure love and miss our Grandma Elene.

Now, Haven. Her name is so special to me. Haven means safe, or safe place. Because of this I knew from the get-go, if we were having a girl, her name would be Haven. Let me explain..

If you know me, you know I have wanted another baby since the day my son was born. I was just.. ready for another. To some, or most, that probably sounds crazy. Haha. But it’s the truth. Unfortunately my marriage was in NO place for us to have another. If you don’t know our story of my husbands addiction and all that has happened, click here, but as soon as we got to a place where I felt safe in my marriage, I knew I wanted to start trying for our angel baby!

She truly is our families angel. Our safe Haven. Not only do I believe she was in the hotel room with Stanley that scary day a year and a half ago keeping him safe, I also believe her sweet spirit was keeping me and her siblings safe through all the dark times as well.

I am so thankful to be where I am in my life, and that we were able to bring this amazing girl to our family. I love her so much and I can’t wait to see how special she will be as she grows! 💕

Now- as for the mystery blanket! Ha-ha! I had SO many comments about that blanket. So here’s how it went down. The amazing @audreysbear offered to send me an announcement blanket. I told them I would LOVE that, but that I didn’t know the gender. So, they went above and beyond for me, and told me to pick out a girl and boy blanket. Then to send them the names, and our gender in an envelope (I had my dr put it in one so I wouldn’t be tempted to look) and sent it their way. Then they sent me the final blanket and I had to wait 3 WEEKS until the hospital to open it. Having it sit in the closet was torture. I eventually had to hide it so we wouldn’t open it. Ha-ha. But it was so worth the wait 🙂 *to learn more about audreysbear and their mission, click here*

So there you have it! An explanation of the mystery blanket and the meaning behind my angel baby’s name.

Haven Elene Havili. 2/2/17.

With love,

Jocelyn Havili

Kids, Lifestyle

“Must have Monday” with BLAIR RITCHEY

Today for my “Must Have Monday” I had to share with you guys this amazing Diaper bag from @Blairritchey . It functions as a side bag, OR a backpack! Having little ones who want to climb all over me, I am such a sucker for the back pack feature! I couldn’t wait until I had my baby to use it (ONE MORE WEEK!!!) But my son still wears diapers so technically  I needed to use it right away! 😉 ha-ha! The functionality is perfect, plus the green details are so cute! There are so many other amazing products, that I can’t wait to add to my collection, over at www.blairritchey.com! Go check them out, and there just might be a sale coming up 🙂

Thanks for joining me for my “Must have Monday”

I hope you had an amazing Monday!!

With Love,

Jocelyn

*pictures taken by www.chandeemariephotography.com

Kids

Mommy Must Haves!

Today I am going to share with you guys 6 companies that are on my “Mommy must-have Monday” list. I can’t wait to have a baby to use these amazing products with, but for now I am just going to tell you about them and share some pictures 🙂

1- The Dockatot. I am sure most of you have heard of it, but I asked a couple months ago what was a must have that my mommy friends had to have, and no joke, 95% said the doctatot. So I am SO excited to have partnered with them to be able to try this GENIUS baby pillow!! Now all I need is a baby to put in it! 🙂

2- The Ollie Swaddle! I will admit it, I have never got down the “swaddle”. Every time I would swaddle, it would come un-done. So, I am so happy to have this blanket to keep the baby swaddled! The way they have designed it, and the material, it is perfect. This is also going in my hospital bag because.. Swaddle. Go check out their website and see this thing in action. (Since I don’t have a baby to show it on. ha-ha) And, I have to talk about the packaging..cutest ever!

3-  Lorena Canals Rug. All of these pictures are taken on my Lorena Canal Rug! The rug I picked out is the Braids Pearl Gray.  Since we don’t know the gender of this baby, I wanted to pick something that was gender neutral. But the best thing about these rugs, they are MACHINE WASHABLE!!!! 2 toddlers, a dog, and a new born baby.. We are a giant mess waiting to happen. Ha-ha. So knowing that I don’t have to be a stress case whenever they are on this rug, is So relieving! You spilt your drink? Throw it in the wash. woot woot!

4- Binxy Baby. I am sure we have all had the grocery cart struggle when the carseat takes up the entire cart and so you have no room for food. Not to mention the other kids you have with you that are hanging on to the sides for dear life. Ha-ha! Binxy Baby to the rescue! This shopping cart hammock is going to save me some sure tears when I venture out for the first time with all 3 kiddos. Yes, I am mentally preparing NOW. Ha-ha!!

5- Milestone Original Activity Cards. These cards are such a fun way to remember and document our babies “firsts”! We plan on going to california this summer, where I will be using the first flight card, first time at the beach card, first amusement park card, and many more! The cards are not only a fun way to remember these moments, but they are adorable!!

6- Finn+Emma Play Gym. The picture I have is from their website, because this is one item that I really want to be able to get gender specific. And I figure a newborn doesn’t need it for the first little bit so I will have time to put my order in as soon as we know what this mystery baby is!! But back to the Play gym.. how amazing is it?! All of the wood details- I’m obsessed! And then all of the toys and clothing that they offer, is all So cute and just has that “special” feeling. I’m going to have a hard time deciding what exactly I want. Knowing the gender will hopefully help a little. ha-ha!

 

Once again, I can’t wait to have a baby to use all of these fun, amazing products with! Come baby come! 2 WEEKS! (or sooner- that would be fine with me. ha-ha!)

Thanks for joining me for my “Mommy must-have Monday!” I hope your Monday has been amazing!!

 

With Love,

 

Jocelyn Havili

 

*This is a sponsored post. All of my opinions remain my own :)*

 

 

 

Family

Baby Registry Wish List with Baby Cubby

I am so excited to have partnered up with Baby Cubby to share with you guys my Baby Registry wish list! Being that this is my third kid, I thought I was pretty much set. But there are so many amazing, new things out there that I am just dying to have!

Before I jump in to my list I just want to tell you guys a little about Baby Cubby!

This is not just “another baby store”. The Baby Cubby team is made up of parents who have been there! So whenever you engage with them on social media, their website, store etc. they are totally there for you and are all so helpful! They know what it’s like, they are so encouraging and constantly help remind us parents how amazing we are and how important our role is. Which is So easy to forget when you are in the thick of things! And one of the best parts, they price match everyday!! I am always looking for the best deal, but sometimes I don’t want to spend all that time making sure I am getting it! So the fact that they take that part and do it for me?? YES PLEASE!!!

You can read a little bit more about the Baby Cubby on their “about us” page here – http://www.babycubby.com/about-us/

Now to my wish List! You guys, honestly I could have put EVERYTHING on their site on my wish list! As I was shopping it was SO hard to limit my list to these 11 Items!! Ha-ha!! But I thought, what are the main things that I really NEED, not just want! (Okay, I snuck a couple “want” items in there too! Ha-ha.) Not knowing the Gender of our little one definitely helped me not go TOO over board, but when it comes to anything baby, how can you say No? So, here is my “not so long, long wish list” 😉

#1-Babyletto Lolly 3 in 1 Convertible crib. I love the wood details of this crib! And, with all of our moving we have done in the past 4 years, our current crib is in sad shape. AND I believe we are missing lots of parts to connect it together. So it’s just time for an upgrade!

#2- Owlet Baby Monitor. This is my #1 MUST HAVE! I am that mom who doesn’t sleep at night because I have to watch my baby’s chest rise and fall. And I have to make sure they aren’t too cold/too hot. All that jazz. (As I’m sure many of you can relate!) So having this would help put me at ease and catch some z’s!

#3-Ergobaby Natural Curve Nursing Pillow. I had a pillow similar to this, but again with all the moving-who knows! But this pillow is amazing for in the hospital (Hospital pillows are kind of the pits) and then it is amazing for nursing!!

#4-Happy Baby Wrap. I have never used a wrap! I know, I am missing out! That’s why this is on my list! I have heard it is a game changer in freeing up your hands, and with this being my third?? Anything to make life easier right?!

#5- Petunia Pickle Bottom Glazed Pathway Pack. I have tried to re-use diaper bags. But those things get hammered. So I am definitely in need of a new one. And this one is gender neutral, so my husband won’t mind walking around with this bag on his shoulder, ha-ha!

#6- Nuna Leaf.  This thing can hold up to 130 LBS! Most swings/bouncers the baby grows out of so fast, but not this bad boy! I might even go for a ride once I get back to my pre-pregnancy weight..if that ever happens 😉

#7- UPPAbaby Mesa Car Seat. Because we need a new carseat. Our other has been through both my kiddos and has seen better days!

#8- DockATot. I have heard so much about this thing! A while back I posted asking what was everyone’s #1 favorite baby product. And this definitely came in at#1 in suggestions! So I feel like I have to give it a try!

#9-Puj Tub. Babies can be so slippery in the tub/sink! Plus having to hold them with one hand and wash with the other can be a little tricky and hard on the back! So this looks like a dream. And again, anything to make life easier right?!

#10- Shadow Pup. I love having something to take monthly pictures of my babies with to show their growth. This go around I’m thinking maybe I’ll do it next to a stuffed animal..aka Shadow the pup!

Last but not least–

#11- A Baby Cubby Giftcard. So that I can get some of the other million things that I wanted to add on this list! 🙂

And there you have it! My baby registry wish list!! Thanks to @thebabycubby for teaming up with me to put this together! I had such a fun time making my list!! It made me even more excited for this little one to make His/Her debut!! 8 more weeks people!! Count-down is ON!

With Love,

Jocelyn Havili

 

Family, Lifestyle

Maternity Photoshoot

I am terrible at being pregnant. The only things I like about being pregnant are feeling the baby move and knowing that I am growing a tiny human that I love so unbelievably much! But the rest- not my thing. haha! My amazing sister(thanks @kelseyhadleyphotography– you’re the best) definitely helped me feel a little bit better about myself with this fun quick photoshoot we did when I went to vegas! And actually getting ready, I say it every time and it never happens, ha-ha, but actually getting ready helps you feel better too!  That’s it, I’m setting a new goal- get ready at least 3 times a week! Starting tomorrow. Wish me luck 😉

I have less than 3 months left (by a week- but who’s counting? hah!).. I can do anything for 3 months right??

Dress: @poppyanddot

 

Family, Lifestyle

Family Photos!

We had these photos taken up at Silver Lake. It was so beautiful and the weather that night was perfect! And yes- I am aware that Dogs are not allowed, but we honestly had no idea until after the fact! SO we apologize to anyone that might get upset that we had her there! We were super quick, there were no accidents and we left everything exactly how we found it! I promise! 🙂

I am so thankful the amazing @lizzyography was able to capture these for us! Especially since my sweet Hinckley broke his femur the next week! Lucky timing if you ask me! But I am so happy we will have these forever! I’ve decided we are going to get family pictures taken more often. Kids grow up so fast and I want to have lots of pictures capturing it all!

 

Family, Lifestyle

FAITH

Conference weekend has quickly become one of my favorites. The spirit is always so strong, my spiritual cup is over flowing by the time it comes to an end. The speakers always say everything that I need to hear, but this conference, there was one re-occurring word in particular that really made me stop and think about my life. It was FAITH.

As most of you know, Stanley my little family and I were sealed for time and all eternity. It was the most incredible day of my life, but the months leading up to it, were not. I had so much fear!! Did I want to be sealed to this man that hurt me so much, for ETERNITY?! Did I want to be sealed to this man, who a few months prior to our sealing was signing the divorce papers I had given him?! How did we get to where we were going so quickly, and was I making the biggest mistake?? I remember kneeling by my bed one night, and saying, I will go forward in faith. I have absolutely no clue what is ahead, but I will continue to keep the commandments and live how I know to be right, and have faith that whatever is suppose to happen, my Heavenly Father will take care of me. And if it wasn’t suppose to be, it wouldn’t be. So the day of our sealing came and I remember thinking, “okay. You brought me to this day, so I will go forward”. Still unsure if that’s what I really wanted, all I had to ride on in that moment was FAITH that it would be okay.

I always thought I had faith before then. But I never had to jump off a cliff, having no clue what and if anything was going to catch me, only having FAITH that I would be okay. And that’s what that experience was for me. I went to the edge of the cliff and jumped. I learned what having faith really means.

The way my Heavenly Father has taken care of me and my family has been more than I could have hoped for or expected. He has shown me that following with true faith is the way we should go. But in life, comes life. And some things fade into the background with out even realizing it. My pregnancy has been extremely hard on me. I haven’t been feeling well, therefore I have been neglecting everything that I feel I need to do to be the best mother/wife I can be. So that made it even harder. Then, My son Hinckley, broke his femur and has been in a spica cast for almost 6 weeks! (Getting it off TOMORROW! woohoo!!) And to top it off, my husband is un-employed (and enjoying it a little too much ;p). With all of these things going on, I have felt completely helpless. I can’t control anything in my life and have become overwhelmed to say the least. I have found myself praying and praying for things to happen that I want so badly to happen, and having “faith” that they would happen, if I asked hard enough. I wasn’t meaning for that to be the intention, but after all the words spoken through out conference, I realized that’s exactly what I had been doing. Faith had become just a word. I wasn’t using it as I now know how to truly use it.

When I was praying about getting sealed, not once did I say “this is what I want to happen” Instead I went forward saying, lead the way. I had no clue as to what should happen. I had zero control. I had decided to give the control to God. Having faith is truly giving your life to God. Sometimes you might want things, that you don’t receive. But having faith is knowing that he knows what’s better for us than we do. My favorite saying that I have mentioned many times before is “let go and let god”. He won’t do for us what we can do for ourselves, but if we do our part and truly live the way we know to be best, and give the rest to him, he WILL take care of us. Maybe not today, tomorrow, or even this life. But if we go forward with faith, faith in HIM and HIS will for us, he will take care of us. In better ways than we can even imagine.

 

With Love,

Jocelyn

 

Family, Lifestyle

The Letter I never sent

August 1, 2015. The darkest days of my life were surrounding me, Stanley’s drug addiction had fully taken over and his life was hanging by a thread. His family had called a meeting to talk about Stanley’s suicide attempt the previous Wednesday which had left him hospitalized and beyond fragile. They had just become aware of this world that I had been living in for so long, and I knew they would be upset, with a lot of questions. I hadn’t told them about anything we were dealing with, mostly out of fear of my husband. He did not want me talking to anyone about anything, and I was the master of doing whatever he asked of me, trying to keep the peace. Staying silent was one of his main requests, so much so, that I was threatened if I didn’t. So I sat there in silence, and decided to write his family a letter explaining what I had so badly wanted to explain for years. A letter that I planed to drop off that night to have them read together.

Stanley’s visitation hours were very strict. He was on constant watch with little to no freedom. I had already planned to go visit him that day, so I decided I would still visit him and take the letter to the family after. This was the visit I said the words “You have 90 days to fix what is broken”. Having the peace I felt when I said what I said, I knew he needed this. Maybe it was just to get him healthy for himself and for our children. I didn’t know. But whatever the reason, I left the visit knowing I wouldn’t be delivering the letter, at least “not today”.

As we were sitting in bed the other night, Stanley came across my letter. I can’t really put in to words the emotions that took over as we read it together. It took us right back to that day, August 1, 2015. We both were overcome with gratitude as we looked back on all of the miracles that have happened since that day. All of the miracles that we KNOW came from our Heavenly Father and Savior.

Miracles keep happening and are constantly blessing me and my family. I am SO grateful and still have to pinch myself at times. If you would have told me I would be where I am today 10 months ago, I wouldn’t have believed you, and I would have shown you this; The Letter I Never Sent…

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“Dear Havili Family,
I want to start by saying how much I love and am thankful for each of you! I am so lucky to have you as my family. But as most of you have now found out, Stanley and I are separated, and have also been talking about getting a divorce. This isn’t something that just came up. It has been going on for a very long time, and I have been fighting and fighting to stay and work through it, I promise.
I don’t think it’s necessary for you to know in detail things that have been said and done over the last 10 years, but I finally came to a point back in February where I just had to stand up for myself and not allow it anymore. I want you all to know that I have given him chance after chance, lies after lies etc. and he just continued to hurt me. I have begged him to get help, but he would flat out say he wasn’t ready to change and wasn’t ready to give up the drugs, even if it meant losing us. I know he didn’t truly mean any of it, and I know he didn’t mean to pick drugs over me and our kids, but that’s exactly what he keeps doing. And it’s not just drugs. There have been other addictions as well. I know he has an illness and I know there are deeper issues but I always felt like he was using me as his punching bag instead of facing the real problem and trying to fix it.
I always tried really hard to be very careful around him each day, not knowing what kind of day it was going to be for him. I tried to be loving, positive, supportive, all the things I thought he needed from me. But, I was just enabling him. I wish I would have told you all sooner and I am so sorry that I didn’t. Stanley did not want me telling anyone, and I would do as he said hoping that by doing what he wanted, he wouldn’t get upset. I probably handled every thing completely wrong, I just didn’t know what to do.
Stanley always says that I am the reason he uses and I am the reason for what he did Wednesday morning. I don’t want to have that effect on him because I love and care about him so much! I want him to be healthy, safe and happy! That’s all I have ever wanted. With all of that said, I obviously want to be a part of his recovery to show my love and support, but I just want whats best for him. And I don’t think, right now in time, that I should be involved.
My heart is where it is and even though this awful, awful, thing happened, I am going to continue forward and file for divorce. I can’t stay with him just because I am scared of him and what he is capable of doing. I won’t live like that any longer.
I have been talking to some counselors, specialists, and doctors  to see when the best time for him would be to receive the papers. Because again, his safety means everything to me. A few of them have said to do it asap while he has so much attention, love and support around him, so it will be happening soon. That is not going to be easy, so he is really going to need you guys more than ever because I know this will be hard on him. Especially since in the hospital he was still threatening his life and wishing that he would have died. He needs some serious help moving forward so again please come together and help him!         I want you all to know, as I have told him a million times, I am NOT going to take his kids away from him. I wouldn’t even dream of doing that! However, until he is clean and healthy, I do think it is best that he is with family and is supervised when with our kids. So I am asking you to be there with him so that he can see his kids, as much as possible! They love him and need him. Not only would I not take them away from him, but I would not take him away from them!
I really do love Stanley and care about him more than anyone will ever know. I always have and I always will. But this is what I feel is best.
Again I love you all so much, and I apologize for doing this through letter. I just knew I wouldn’t be able to do it in person because I care so much about you all and wouldn’t be able to say what needed to be said.
Thank you for your love and support.

I love you guys.
Jocelyn”

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I am so thankful I didn’t deliver this letter that day in August. And I chose to share this with you to show you, miracles can and will happen if you turn to God. I couldn’t have fixed things. Stanley couldn’t have fixed things. But with the Lord, all things are possible.

“Our Savior will help us. He is the great mediator, and He is able to soften hearts and heal wounds. He knows how to bring people to a unity of heart and mind”-Healing Through Christ pg.83

With Love,

Jocelyn Havili

 

 

Family, Lifestyle

“My-kind-of-perfect-ness”

I took a break from my blog. Why you ask? Honestly, because I saw the million other bloggers out there, who in my mind are perfect. And I thought, I can’t do this. I am not good enough, talented enough, interesting enough, etc. My sweet husband is the king of quotes and knowing exactly what to say at the right time to make me check myself. ha-ha. In his recovery he heard a quote, that one day when I was getting so down on myself and the things I was or wasn’t doing, he looked at me and said “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It basically smacked me in the face. I realized, Holy smokes, I could go on and on in detail of all of the things I have compared myself to throughout my life, that have contributed to me being so unhappy!! I never had confidence because, compared to everyone else, in my mind I just kind of sucked. At everything.  And now as a mother, it has been worse than ever!!

COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY!! So, I am here to say my house is a total disaster. I have like 5 decorations that are so outdated they just aren’t cute anymore. In fact, they aren’t even on display. They are in the same place they have been for years. My garage. Laundry of my non-stylish clothing has been partially done, and will probably sit in the basket on our floor until I need the basket for another load. My hair is currently a dirty mess in a bun on my head (yep, I wore it like that to church), and I am wearing a shirt that has holes because it lost a battle to my washer/dryer. I still have baby weight that, let’s face it, ain’t goin’ nowhere. I am going to continue to take and post pictures from my Iphone and will try to filter the heck out of them so I can look somewhat decent (unless my sister is in town, then I will definitely ask her to professionally edit. ha-ha) My kids, who I love more than life, have been living off of chicken nuggets and corn dogs. They are outside wearing shirts from last year that don’t fit and are covered in stains, while not wearing pants or shoes. Our puppy (cutest thing) pooped inside, and my son decided to join her and take off his poopy diaper and add his flavor to the mix. Awesome. I am going to have 3+ rolls at dinner, WITH butter, and I will enjoy every bite.

What I am trying to say is whatever you are doing today is good enough. Don’t compare yourself to anyone!! Know that you all have our own “perfect-ness”. And I know that my life is “my-kind-of-perfect-ness,” Pinterest fails and all.  I wouldn’t have it any other way!!

 

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